Episode 10: Swinger Paradigm Shift

A paradigm shift, according to the dictionary, is “an important change that happens when the usual way of thinking about or doing something is replaced by a new and different way”. We spent five days at the “largest open-relationship lifestyle event” in the US in 2018; five days that changed our entire concept of what our life as swingers would look like.  We had a “Swinger Paradigm Shift”!

During those five days we met amazing people, ate fantastic food, and had a lot of hot and sexy play time. We also made mistakes, missed signals, made assumptions and accidentally broke quite a few of our own rules.

Swinger Paradigm Shift

First and foremost, however, attending Naughty N’awlins was an experience that taught us more about ourselves and each other. We successfully pushed ourselves through our own social boundaries and insecurities. In doing so, we each began our own journeys of exploration, discovery and rediscovery.

Listen to our story. Learn from our mistakes. Join us as we talk about what happened and began to discover what type of swingers we wanted to be and what being in a non-monogamous marriage was going to look like for us.

Part 3 of this 3 part series:

We review days four and five of our 2018 trip to Naughty N’awlins. Myrina spends the last night of Naughty in N’awlins creating some steamy, hot and sexy memories! First an MFM with Tristan and her new friend from the Meet and Greet. Later that night she reconnects with her friend from the Plus One room. However, this time they end their evening somewhere else! (Yes, you will have to listen to find out!)

More importantly, we spent time together to decompress and talk about our adventures and the lessons we learned. 

We began to understand that swinging, for us, is going to open us up to even more experiences and that this journey has become more than about just having sex with other people.  In fact, we realized that we were rediscovering and redefining ourselves and our sexuality.

“I can fuck 50 people, that’s not what its about. Its WHO I want to fuck and spend my time with.”

~ Myrina, Episode 10, 1:10:59

SHOW NOTES

• recap and start talking about day 4 [4:36]
• Cafe Beignet [6:54]
• Miss No Swimsuit contest {9:22]
• Chuck the Bad Mother-Shucker figured us out! [12:06]
• the big Saturday night party [13:14]
• the Group Room on Saturday night was packed [15:03]
• Myrina stops by the Plus One room to see her friend but he’s busy [16:43]
• we run into Myrina’s play friend from day 2 [18:14]
• AUDIO CLIP #1 – recorded August 2018 [18:52]
• recap of our MFM [19:32]
• we went back by the Plus One room before the playrooms closed [25:04]
• AUDIO CLIP #2 – recorded August 2018 [25:40]
• “There’s an inverse relationship to your vocabulary level and how hard you’ve been fucked.” (Tristan to Myrina) [31:00]
• the three of us went to Daisy Dukes for brunch
• with Naughty officially over, we decided to spend an evening with each other [34:21]
• we just needed to be together and decompress [35:33]
• “Between the time that we arrived in New Orleans on that Wednesday morning and the time that we left on Monday afternoon, we were different.” [38:40]
• AUDIO CLIP #3 – recorded July 2018, the night we got home from Naughty N’awlins [39:35] This clip IS where we are experiencing our swinger paradigm shift!!!
• we talk about body image and social anxiety [1:08:53]
• 2019 spoiler alert! [1:10:18]
• “I can fuck 50 people, that’s not what it’s about. It’s who I want to fuck and spend my time with.” [1:10:59]
• we didn’t realize we were being so rigid [1:12:09]
• “We had come such a long way because we put ourselves out there.” [1:12:39]
• having these experiences is a gift that we are offering to each other [1:14:06]
• “the tip” [1:14:56]
• this has made us so much stronger because we’ve had to share deep, dark, intimate secrets with each other [1:17:19]
• wrap up 2020 [1:18:12]

ADDITIONAL RESOURCES

• Willie’s Chicken Shack
• Cafe Beignet
• Razzoo’s Bar & Patio – 511 Bourbon Street (I couldn’t find a website for this bar!
• Felix’s Restaurant and Oyster Bar
• Mr. B’s Bistro
• Hotel Monteleone
• Carousel Bar & Lounge (a MUST DO!)